A New Me

What do I say… how do I start this… well, life can throw you some curve balls sometimes. It’s an interesting process when you put your whole life into something, and then it’s gone. It can be anything. It can be a career, a relationship, a loved one dies, a hobby, some other life goal, and just about anything that you can put your everything into and focus on for more parts of a day than not. Something that you start to identify with. When someone asks you “Who are you?”, you’ll respond with this thing that you’ve put everything into. Then if you take this thing away from your life, from your everyday process, from basically part of your identity… it’s scary. It’s a major life change whether you know it or not.  Continue reading

How to do Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation is moment to moment awareness. It is being fully awake. It involves being here for the moments of our lives, without striving or judging. Mindfulness involves a formal practice and an informal practice. In formal practice we take time for sitting meditation or mindful movement practices like walking meditation or yoga or chi gong. Informal practice is a way of life in which we meditate as we do what we do. It involves being present in the moments of our lives. Mindfulness meditation is a formal practice of mindfulness or of being mindful. It helps teach us to live in the present moment. Continue reading

STOP Saying You’re Sorry to EVERYTHING!

In my experiences I have come across many a person that seems to apologize for even the slightest thing that goes wrong in a day. This type of individual is usually someone who works for someone else (non-independent type job), is some sort of paid or unpaid intern/extern, or is a student. These types of people tell their significant other, their boss, the cashier at Walgreens, a driver who cut them off, their friend(s), their pets even that they are sorry for the slightest things. YES, if someone does not work out in the ideal way that you had it pictured in your mind, then we have a slight instance of what I call the “oh shit” feeling. Continue reading

Stop Arguing. Start Educating. 

Why does a debate in which two sides don’t agree always have to end in arguing or feelings getting hurt? Why when we debate do we never see someone stop and change their mind on something because the debate has changed their mind? Change isn’t a sign of weakness (depending on the reasoning and intention for it), admitting you may have been slightly wrong and wish to incorporate someone else’s opinions or facts into your thinking processes is a sign of education not weakness and flip flopping. Why do we always have to be right? Even though we know there are two sides to everything (at least) and there’s never one side that’s completely right or wrong. Why do we have to yell, scream, insult, incite violence, and flat out ignore at times every one else on the other end of the aisle? Why does being wrong sometimes correlate with being wrong all the time, not trusting his or her opinion anymore, or thinking that person is now an idiot because they were wrong or changed their mind. I just want to see people debating in a way that incites creative thinking, logic, new patterns of thinking, and in the pursuit of knowledge and working together. Not because I’m right and you’re wrong and I’ll debate you to show you why I’m better than you. Or to debate just because we need to complain and yell about someone or something that we hate. Why do debates seem to always have to end in who was right, who was wrong, who came out on top, who came out looking stupid, and who won the debate and is now the authority on all things correlating to that topic? I just don’t see too many debates nowadays where one side at least if not all sides come out feeling like they’ve grown together, learned something new, and have come to some better understanding or accord with the other person(s). I want more of this. I want more debates and discussions where the goal is to come together and grow and learn from each other. Continents. Nations. Villages. Communities. Divided we fall. Together we grow. Education, compassion, and community feeling. Nurture these components and see humanity grow together for the better. There is no point to anything if we can’t be happy and help make others happier as well.